Blog notes on Emotions and Reactions (May Boost Iman series)
Workshop conducted by Sister Marita Davies
Emotions are not ‘good or bad’, they are signals. Is there something wrong, do you need to make some changes? Basic emotions are innate and come under 4 categories: Anger, Fear, Happiness and Sadness (AFHS)
Participants were asked to fill out the Good/Bad poster regarding what they ‘Felt’ at times of these emotions, not what they were ‘thinking’. It was pointed out that their feelings were based on the primary emotion of FEAR to some degree. AFHS was shown to differ between men’s and women’s reactions, be it cultural example, men can be angry; but it is not okay for a man to show fear because that questions their masculinity.
Religion says (Do not be angry, do not be sad,) or learnt culture portraits (family upbringing). In general men suppress their emotions of fear and sadness. Women suppress their emotions of happiness and anger. Suppression of emotions create ‘Depression’ (the denial of emotions) A depressed person cannot define their emotion (see physical symptoms) also (medical v/s situational explained) Depression from the Islamic perspective and explanation of is ‘Sadness). Quotes from the Quran were shared. Anger is feelings of frustration, intimidation, hurt, all resulted in a degree of FEAR from what may have been, a concern, or to the point of absolute terror.
In Quran, Surah Baqarah in Ayat 38, Allah talks about Fear (Khauf). Allah refers to the fear of the Jews as Khaufun- continuity of fear. They will remain fearful in this world and whatever they intend is based on fear. Fear can incapacitate us by totally eroding our confidence, clear thinking and acting and leaving us STUCK.
Discussion in class:
➢ Emotions are not necessarily good or bad
➢ Anticipation – frustration, happiness, fear, sadness.
➢ Depression- what does depression feel like.
➢ Five senses- Touch, Smell, See, Hear, Taste. This was based on SENCE v/s NONSENCE.
The Physical Symptoms of All Emotions overlap and are the same.
Your body is telling you- there is something you need to do, so do not suppress your emotions because this is where your reaction comes in. It is our mind that hangs on and triggers the emotions.
What are the physical symptoms and what purpose do they fill, what provokes the Autonomic Nervous System.
Discussions included :
➢ How to deal with an anxious person, The role a parent plays with a child, emotions during puberty
➢ What Triggers emotions?
➢ How to express emotions if you are in a situation where you cannot do anything about it?
➢ Do sure not to suppress your emotions!!!!
➢ Write in your diary about the situation and express how you feel it will help you clear your anger. Write journals.
➢ Write the person a letter even if the person has deceased. Start your writing with …I feel angry…. when you … so please …
This is Assertion and leaves the person to respond to you in an explanation and being accountable of their actions. By starting your writing with “YOU”… puts the blame on them, and that can have a backlash on you. Therefore, “I” takes responsibility for your reaction.
Bereavement stages of emotions explained.
These stages can be after the death of someone, a broken relationship, loss of friendship.
In addition to most of the above topics, participant interaction was great and lead to personal issues being explained and understood.